Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Like VS Love?

I don't just love my husband I like him. I think you have to like the person you love. If you didn't like them how could you enjoy every second with them? 

Example: You love your parents, in-laws, siblings, etc...But could you be with them every second? Could you share a bed with them every single night? Could you trust them enough to have a child with them? Could you trust them enough to own everything equally? 

Steven is the only person I trust to do anything life changing/important with. I know he would sacrafice his life for me. I would do the same. I know that sounds a little extreme and dramatic but I would do anything for my best friend. 

He is the only one who has seen all my stretch marks, knows all my secrets (only ones I keep to myself are Christmas presents)(seriously he knows absolutely everything), loves me even after seeing me after three days of no bathing, he can see past all my blemishes and imperfections, he thinks I am beautiful in my comfy clothes that I DO NOT leave the house in, he loves me regardless of my morning breath, he accepts my quirky behaviors and projects, he loves me even when I speak the truth

After all that and more he still loves me. He likes me too. I think it is more important to hear 'I like you' rather than 'I love you' all the time. I think a reminder of how much you actually 'like' someone is very important. 

You always hear about in divorce cases where they say "I love you but I'm just not in love with you anymore". I think what they mean is that "I love you but I don't like you anymore". 

To be able to like the person you love even when they change is what will keep the marriage going in my opinion.

People change daily and over time that can be drastic. If you continue to like that person through their changes then love will be enough. If you can't like them then love will not be enough.

So I would like to tell everyone that I like my husband a lot. I love him too but I really really like him.


  1. I love this post! I feel that same way. Greg and I tell each other all the time that we like each other. I think its the most important part of a great relationship!

  2. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks like this. I don't think love is anything without like.